This post wraps up suggestions for “beginning within” to improve personal and, eventually, public character and discourse. Read the first installment here, and the second here.
As I hinted in the first post, disappointment inspired this series. I’m disappointed in an American public sphere that includes shouting, name-calling and righteous intolerance. We can do better. This third post continues to explore goals that can help us overwhelm that disappointment.
Work. Hard. Enjoy your work, but at the same time don’t live to work. I’m guilty of this; I often work overtime, sometimes at the expense of other, more important, parts of my life.
On the other side of the spectrum, don’t be a burden. A social safety net is necessary. It’s intended to catch those who cannot avoid falling into it. If you have an able body, use it. I cannot understand it when able-bodied people teach themselves helplessness and sink into life by charity.
Example, I was approached by a man on the street two nights ago. He gave me a story about needing a $27 bus ticket, and quickly added that he didn’t expect me to give him all of it, but would appreciate whatever I could give. I know I’m better off financially than many, so I gave him $1 (all that I had in my wallet). Not only did he act vexed that all I gave him was a free $1, he glanced as the ATM behind him as if he expected me to get more cash. Um, no. Whoever you are, don’t be that person.
As another example, I mentioned in the previous post that I volunteered at a food pantry for a while. I handed out free groceries for needy families. If I had a nickel for every time I took armloads of free groceries out to a family’s car, only to see a massive bass woofer in the trunk, I’d have at least $1.50. If you’re that person, get your priorities straight.
One last idea on work: Try to work ethically. Buddhists call it “right livelihood.” Work honestly and try to make that work reconcile with your own and prevailing ideas of right and wrong.
Save. This goes hand-in-hand with work. Again, a social safety net is necessary, but why would you not save? It only aggravates issues like Social Security and Medicare, which currently dominate the public discourse.
Moderate. I don’t advocate temperance, because I wouldn’t expect (or want) that of myself. I enjoy a drink now and again (and again). But soberness of mind means soberness of discourse and expression.
When I was young, my parents had a bar sign that read, “Never trust a man who doesn’t drink.” I like that sentiment. Somehow, people who don’t drink seem stuffy and Ned Flander-ish to me. Still, don’t overdo it. Same goes for drugs and cigarettes. No excuses for hard drugs like cocaine and heroin. If you like to smoke pot (which I maintain is safer than alcohol), fine, but don’t make it your lifestyle. As for tobacco, it’s a free country, but don’t ask me to pay for your health problems.
Moderation also includes ideas, but that comes back to the first goal, listening. Don’t get all of your information from the same source; your understanding of the world - and contribution to it - will be richer for it. That includes Fox News. That includes The Daily Show.
Work. Save. Moderate. Those are the ideas I have for now, though I may (and likely will) return to these themes. You might say I drifted. I began in the first installment of this series by asking of public discourse, what is constructive? How does one push ideas forward to improve things for himself and those around him?
In asking those questions, I quickly concluded that sound discourse begins with sound mind and body. I didn’t want to lecture, but if you made it through all of this, you probably felt quite a bit of finger-wagging. If you did, maybe you needed to feel it. I sure did.
And, in case you weren’t paying attention, let me distill this nearly 1,800-word diatribe down to two words that can do wonders for how we see and act toward each other in the public sphere: Begin within.